~ Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of
I’m really good at worrying. I worry about me and my future, of course, being the self-centered person that I am (and I make a distinction between “self-centered” and “selfish,” so I’m admitting a human condition, not a human flaw… although I have those, too). But I worry about others, as well.
Recently, I (re)discovered a “trick” in a way to shift my attention and ease my mind somewhat. I can turn the wasted energy of worry into a more positive energy of loving kindness just by choosing to alter my focus.
Worry results in sending negative “vibes” out into space, with no beneficial results. Worry saps my energy and serves no purpose other than to upset me. It does absolutely nothing to help the person I am concerned about.
So instead of feeding the negativity, I can intentionally send out positive “vibes” to the person or situation. This gives me a way to harness my thoughts and hone my focus, and – because I believe in the power of manifesting – allows me to exert a positive influence on the situation. It becomes a proactive process for engaging my energies and reduces the helpless feelings that feed worry.
Consciously sending love to someone is not a substitute for offering concrete help when we are able to do so. But when we are unable to provide tangible assistance it gives us a means to still offer support. And a wonderful by-product is that it feeds our own souls.
We can extend loving kindness to ourselves as well. I’m not very skilled at doing that; I will need more practice. Perhaps that discussion is best left for another post down the road. For now, I’m going to practice sending my positive energies outward.
“Thinking” of you,